BDSM as Escapism

BDSM as Escapism

Have you ever stood still at a time, potentially a tense time and thought if I could just teleport out right now?

Like a mini crane could pick you up and lift you out?

I’m sure we all have at one time or another, just wished we could escape the reality and most of us regularly would be My guess.

21st century living is hard. Instead of just the pressure of earning your crust and eventually feeding of your family.

We are a fast paced, multi cultural, high pressured society with expectation everywhere on how to look, feel and what career to have.

All fed by the fabulous tasting poison that is social media!

So feel that release of immediately exiting the situation or the grind, even if just for a brief moment. To step into an alternative reality with a more positive vibe.

Be it an argument with a partner, stress at work, watching a close relative decline in health or even just family gatherings – we all know those can be a right ball (or ovary!) ache (pardon the FemDom pun)!

So who can wonder that we all look for those snippets of glory in sometimes what can seem like the shit heap of everyday life?

But whatever your life situation may be it is usually threaded with some level of responsibility, obligation or attachment.

So we don’t run away from it, there is no “eject” button in real life.

We stick around, we deal with it and we get through but that reality is still there and the feelings and emotions it generates too.

It’s stored in us and for some it can really weigh heavy. Harnessed in us, controlled until either it explodes out of us often ending with some upsetting consequences – or a hangover! 

But for some of us we have a chosen form of activity or hobby to escape for a short time.

My Mum; she finds solace in the simplicity of watching soap operas, to watch a pretend reality of others life drama scenarios.

The definition of escapism:

“the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.”

Mingle this need for release with a love or keen interest in BDSM and in steps the rise of the Professional Dominatrix.

To hand over ultimate control to an empowered, self assured, confident Woman. To release the pressure and experience a situation which is almost entirely out of the norm.

I’d say 90% of men that visit Me have submissive wives or “alpha” considered careers or even heavy family responsibilities where many rely upon them be it financially or otherwise.

I often explain to My friends I’m a fantasy therapist. I want My subs to step into My space and escape their every day, to enjoy and let go.

I like to think Myself very approachable, if there’s something you want to try and it’s not a hard limit of Mine or a different spin on the ordinary you have in mind, then I would do My best to help materialise that into something that’s mutually enjoyable for U/us both whilst maintaining control.

I don’t do scripts but I do enjoy submissive triggers such as using certain key phrases or names to assist in inducing gibbering, submissive puddles.

Same with role play scenarios, whilst I can enjoy the characters such as Nurse and patient, Police Officer and criminal – the personality, the verbal and the activities will all come from My heart and My style.

The guys with the “to the letter” fantasies are not for Me.

I also keep My flavour of escapism very real by just being Me, when you come along to sample one of My sessions – what you see is what you get. I am a bubbly, upbeat personality. My Domination involves laughter, I will enjoy you, I feel secure in My style, the Big Bad Domina act is just not Me. I have not a need to adopt an ego, or a false persona – unlike some! Meow! My personal opinion (stress this is an opinion) is that someone that feels the need to cover themselves in a charade draw that from a place of insecurity. Creating the mask and persona to draw strength.

If it harms none, do as ye will.

Kinky Consensual Escapism for everyone!

Mistress Tess x